More than a week ago my son got his 2nd quarter report card. That day I went home during lunch to check his grades. I already knew most of his grades went lower because the school gives us a quiz chart to monitor their quizzes. He made more mistakes during his periodical exams too.
So, I went home and I look at his grades. It was actually still high but I put on my game face and called him. Before I could talk to him about his grades he goes…
Son: “Mom! Mom! Did you see my report card?!”
Me: “Yes. Three out of four subjects went down.”
Son: “Yes but did you see my Behavior In School? It improved!”
Me: “Yes I saw.”
Son: “And did you see my Effort?! It’s so high?! Are you proud?!”
Of course I answered yes. We didn’t get to discuss his grades anymore. He was so happy and proud that all his deportment grades increased. Last quarter he received the most responsible award so I asked him if he had any special awards this time. He said no because other it was others’ turn to get the award.
The tiger mom in me wanted to push the conversation further but the mother who remembered being a child once, decided to smile and just give my son a hug. I told him he did a good job and just try to maintain his grades. I said a short speech about learning from our mistakes and to try not to do it again.
We did prepare a special prize for him and he was very happy to get his new toy. I know… I know… learning is prize enough. Reward system only teaches a child to do good because of the prize at the end… I know that. Maybe next quarter…