I continue my journey to a better me thanks to Coach Pia and the SoMoms. The first session I attended was on “Building Healthier Relationships”. I learned a lot from that one! The next session, still on “Building Healthier Relationships with Partners and Children”, was recently held at the Sequoia Hotel in Quezon City.
From the previous session, we were given an assignment: find out our love language, including our spouses and children. To know our love language, we took a test online (click on this site http://www.5lovelanguages.com/).
I found out that my love language was physical touch, while my husband’s is words of affirmation. Why is it important to know this? Because then you will have a better idea how to show your love to your loved ones. At the same time, your loved ones can also adjust how they can show their love to you. For example, your husband makes an effort to give you gifts all the time. Although you appreciate his efforts, you’re thinking… “I just want him to tell me he loves me!” Maybe it’s because your language of love is words of affirmation, while his is receiving gifts. Openly communicating this will definitely make it easier for both of you. It did for me! I do make an extra effort now to TELL hubby how good he is with the kids and to me.
Another learning I picked up was: How do you know if your relationship with your partner is “healthy”?
- I can be myself while still nurturing my partner – Authenticity
- I can trust myself and trust my partner – Basic Trust
- I feel respected and respect my partner – Basic Respect
- I feel understood and I can understand my partner – Deeper Understanding
- I can nurture our children and our children feel nurtured by US – Basic Parenting
Looking at these, I think I pretty much have a healthy relationship with my husband. Although I would like to strengthen a thing or two. And to do this, I learned about willingness and ability in developing healthier relationships:
- Willingness and Ability to maintain and develop trust
- Willingness and Ability to learn continuously
- Willingness and Ability to communicate openly – no judgements!
- Willingness and Ability to Cooperate and Create a Plan
- Willingness and Ability to Adapt and be Flexible
- Willingness and Ability to Let Go and Forgive
Definitely I’m 100% willing… but do I have enough ability to do it?! I have highlighted two aspects I have decided to improve and work on. I’m soooo willing to let go and forgive but it’s so hard to forget right?! One word that Coach Pia emphasized was “transcend”. To overcome all negativity around us, part of letting go. Grabe ha! This word continued to affect all of the Somoms up to this day.
One special thing about this session was we got to bring a “date”. I asked my BFF to join me and good thing she was available! I wanted her to have that “Coach Pia Experience” first hand. I hope she got to take home as much wisdom as I did that day.
Of course, no session would be complete without the girls bonding over food. Thanks to Ombu Restaurant for making our tummies happy! The food was ah-mazing!
Ombu serves modern Filipino dishes. The price is reasonable since dishes are mostly served family style. Notable ones are the Salted Egg Tempura, Binakol, Gising-gising and Crispy Glazed Chicken.
We were also lucky to have guests from Bank of the Philippine Islands (BPI) who gave us financial wellness journals to help us in our financial planning.
I always look forward to these sessions. I learn a lot from Coach Pia and I get to bond with amazing women! Can’t wait for the next one!
Sequoia Hotel is located along Mother Ignacia St. in Quezon City
Ombu Restaurant is located at the ground floor of Sequoia Hotel
Visit BPI website at www.bpiexpressonline.com