Lately my first born has been really emo about things. He easily cries and claims that we love his younger brother more than him. A little bit sumbat why the little one can play gadgets and not him. He gets addicted so we sometimes take away his toys.
I really don’t know where this is all coming from and it’s a bit hard to help him process his feelings being diagnosed twice exceptional. Even if I try to explain to him we love them the same, he does not seem to believe it. Or he accepts it for awhile and then something happens and he’s all emotional again. I have told him several times that he has three years worth of extra love from everybody – mommy, daddy, lolo, and lola. And whatever happens, his brother cannot get those extra years!
Last weekend he cried again and accused me again of loving his brother more than him. He said I don’t do things for him. Mommy guilt to the max! I felt it was unfair, he forgot all the things we did together?! When the truth is I have neglected more his little brother than him! I didn’t get to teach his brother alphabets and numbers like I did him. I didn’t read as much to his brother. But saying those things to an emotional 8 year old will probably not help. So, I asked if he wanted to go on a movie date. Just the two of us. He said yes.
Yesterday we watched Guardians of the Galaxy together. I got him his snacks. We laughed at the funny parts together and I would answer his questions about the characters. After the movie I asked him if he wanted to go to Shakey’s for dinner. His dad was on his way home and caught up with us. It was just the three of us.
He was happy. He felt special.
I guess despite his size and intelligence, this boy needs extra care emotionally. Now, I feel like I need to do more research about handling twice exceptional kids. It’s been a couple of years since his diagnosis and I have not really looked into it as much as I should.
So, mommy, that’s your homework! Hay…