When your child wants to do something and he enjoys it, all you can do is support him even if many people object to it. Seeing your child smile because he is doing something he likes is true happiness to parents like me.
My youngest son has discovered ballet and wants to learn it. Yes, my boy wants to dance ballet. I’ve heard people comment that he might become gay or he will probably have gender issues because of it. Seriously, I studied ballet for more than 12 years of my life and I can tell you that many of the male dancers I’ve met are not gay. And those who are, ballet did not do that to them.
In a world where girls and boys are stereotyped, it really is difficult sometimes to support our kids to follow their dream. Maybe what I’m feeling right now is the same feeling moms feel when they enroll their daughters to do “boy things” and are frowned upon. “Why jujitsu? Doesn’t she want ballet instead?!” Why do we put them in a box just because they’re boys or their girls?
Thanks to a former ballet classmate, I found a studio run by a male instructor. It does help because male dancers have a different kind of skill set they must develop. They do more jumps and turns. Plus, they have to learn how to hold their partners.
His trial class was fun to watch. Makulit pa rin! His first official class he went in wearing complete uniform: ballet shoes, tights, and shirt. He was even more excited because he has his own shoes.
It was heartwarming to see him enjoy every minute of it. He took instructions well and successfully did the steps. he enjoyed moments of naughtiness with his other classmates. He did ask his instructor if he could carry his partner already! He was surprised but he did laugh. I know he’s excited to have a little boy in his class.
I am thankful his dad is open minded about his son dancing. Although I know deep inside he still has misgivings about it. But I did see him take several pictures on his cellphone while we were waiting. I keep on teasing him, this is the best way to get girls! He’ll grow up the chick magnet!
I don’t know how long he’ll do this. Maybe this is just a summer thing, or maybe he’ll want to do this until he grows up. Whatever his decision will be, we’ll be here to support him. And I’ll be your typical stage mother cheering him from the audience when recital comes.